rejection and failure: unlikely gifts

Rejection has come to take a negative connotation in our lives.

Fear of it can paralyze us into doing nothing at all.

We’ve pushed it all to the “ugly” side of things. The things we’d rather ignore and forget about. The things in life we hope to never experience. We label ourselves based on rejections and what seem like failures to us.

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The perspectives we have on rejection and failure have boxed us up for far too long and kept us back from who we were made to be.

We all seem to avoid those two things as if they are the last things we want to experience. Because they hurt. They break down the walls of pride that we’ve built up around our hearts. They reveal the ugly and messy parts of us. They reinforce the worst things about us. It’s as if fear, rejection, and failure speak to us, whispering,

You don’t fit in here. You don’t belong. You don’t have what it takes. And you never will.

But what if there is an entirely different perspective we can see rejection and failure from?

Isn’t it worth one thousand rejections of the wrong thing or the wrong person or the wrong group of friends to find the one thing or one person or one group of friends you belong to? 

Because in this life, you will be rejected. That’s a promise.

You will be rejected, because you were not meant to be accepted by everyone.

You are not for everyone.

You are not for the whole world.

You might not have found you’re people yet.

You might feel uncomfortable,

like each attempt at a new friendship dies out,

and that’s ok.

You may feel like there’s something wrong with you.

Like maybe no one understands your heart?

But one day, you will find the person that you mean the world to. Maybe one day you will find the friend who means the world to you. I hope you do. And you will realize you don’t need a world of friends. A few close hearts can mean everything. You don’t need a spotlight shined on your life. You need to let Christ set your heart ablaze. You don’t have to be noticed by this world that might reject you, you are seen by the One who always accepts you.
Because honestly?

The person who is never rejected-who never fails-who never messes up,

has never risked.

And if you haven’t risked anything, are you really living at all?

See rejection and failure through a new perspective. They’re pointing you to where you belong. They’re pointing you to the arms of a God who always accepts you. They’re pointing to the people He made to be in your life.

It’s the mundane days in life that require the most courage. The courage to be bold and to press forward, accepting the fact that in this life you will face rejection and failure. And yet at the same time, you can accept the fact that every rejection and failure is pointing you to your greater purpose.

And yes, a thousand rejections and a thousand failures are worth it when you find the one person you were meant to be with–or the one passion you were created to spend your life pursuing.

10 thoughts on “rejection and failure: unlikely gifts

  1. mandacarpenter

    Madyson, I am continually impressed by your words! This is a great reminder. Thanks for encouraging me to see rejection through a new lens. XO


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